|baleen - 2014-10-10 |
My heart, it weeps for these men.
|EvilHomer - 2014-10-10 |
A friend of mine (the crustie juggalette) is starting a Pathfinder game. Part of me wants to join, part of me wants to keep being anti-social. What should I do, /poe/?
I am not antisocial when I'm in a social group, but I am very antisocial when it comes to actually getting together in social groups. I'm a good actor; I can fake it *if I have to*, but as I explained to Jarred, I'm notoriously reclusive when left to my devices.
Also, I have a lot of unresolved psychological issues in regards to D&D. As a child, I used to play Dungeons & Dragons with my old prep school friends. We played *a lot*, investing our own rule sets and dreaming of becoming best-selling fantasy authors. But my friends' parents were hardcore 1980s-style Christians, and my father was a hardcore alpha-male achievement junkie ("how can you be the scholar-athlete Yale will expect you to be if you're wasting your study time on absurd escapism?" he'd tell me every night before I went to sleep). D&D was blamed for pretty much everything, real or imagined, and all of my books wound up shredded or burned in the backyard by the time I was twelve. I have not played since. Not even in the Army, when over half my platoon was obsessed with D&D, and my *not* being an RPG dork, in a cruelly ironic twist of fate, made me the social outcast my father always told me I'd become.
I'd like to try it, at least once, but I'm worried I'd just wind up resenting them and hating myself.
I don't want this to sound heavy or profoundly important, because it isn't and it shouldn't be, but it seems like you internalized a role to play already and you're not enjoying it. I think it's time you roll some stats and write up a new character. It's a game, and it's not your fault your old man took his own game way too seriously. Forgive him for being all Mazes and Monsters on your ass and go write a persona that you can choose to let live and be free.
Record video and share with us.
Nearly a year ago my mom was diagnosed with stage 4 cancer. I moved back home to take care of her, because my dad is old and he was freaking out. She is on the mend (I think), but one horrible/wonderful thing about living at home as a fully grown man is that you begin to relive the things that both made you really happy and really miserable as a teenager, and for me, some of my fondest memories were staying up with my friends until dawn playing rpg's.
So I allowed myself to do that, despite the pathetic self-flagellating associated with that kind of return to childhood, and it's actually cheered me up quite a bit. My poison has been the Pathfinder Adventure Card Game. Believe it or not, I've turned some other people on to it and it's opened some social avenues with genuinely interesting (and not at all like the) people in a hometown where 90% of my old friends are gone. I think it's okay to be a bit of a kid when you're stuck in a particular pattern of being. Actually, I think in order to rejuvenate your creative spirit and overcome the bad stuff from your dad (and I mean "your dad" as in the Royal Your Dad, as in all of your dads and moms too) it is imperative that you allow those innocent pleasures to resurface.
It's a stupid cliche, but when you begin chasing every little hobby that once brought you some pleasure, pleasurable things begin to happen.
*(not at all like the people in this video)
Give it a shot and see; you'll know soon enough.
Often the problem with RPGs and what you see with people playing is that the people who are the most fun to play them with are the people the least likely to give then a try, because the statmaster nerds are the ones least likely to try and do anything interesting or keep the game lively and fun. You need a mix of irresponsible people to start fires for the responsible people to put out. Find the right people and it can be a lot of fun.
The yardstick for a good game is simple - if you're enjoying it, keep playing, and there's nothing to lose trying a session or two.
EH, pray that the group is very little like this one, with a bunch of 0-dimensional characters.
|Boxhead - 2014-10-10 |
All post high-school RPGs should probably take their cues from the
D&D with Pornstars blog. It's all good fun, but a healthy dose of gonzo helps a lot.
There's some interesting thoughts on that blog about why D&D is the perfect RPG form for a varied set of players.
Also, I like to think I'm the reasonably suave cameraman but am probably closer to anyone else at that table.
|homogenousemptytime - 2014-10-11 |
That who playboy mansion thing was so unfiltered, pure nerd. That could not have been made up.
|StanleyPain - 2014-10-11 |
I love how Pathfinder is such a shit RPG, but has managed to become this weird, successful go-to thing now because of the D&D nerdrage over 4th edition and now D&D Next or whatever.
Do you\did you hate D&D? Because Pathfinder is just D&D 3.5.
Yes, from what little I understand, WotC pulled an Apple and their new open license became constricted, confusing garbage.
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